ATL Anxiety Therapy
For people who are tired of understanding their patterns but still repeating them.
You know you overthink. You replay conversations. You worry about what people think. You struggle with uncertainty, relationships, boundaries, or trusting yourself.
And even when you know you're spiraling, knowing better doesn't always help you respond differently.
I help people understand the attachment and anxiety patterns underneath these reactions, and learn how to pause, tolerate uncertainty, and make choices from clarity instead of fear.
Welcome to Aurora Love Counseling
You don’t have to figure out how to shift your patterns alone.
Maybe you've spent a lot of time trying to understand yourself.
You've read the books.
You've listened to the podcasts.
You understand your attachment style.
And yet...
You still check the text.
You still feel guilty setting the boundary.
You still seek reassurance.
You still second-guess yourself.
Insight doesn't automatically create change.
My Approach
1- Understand
We look beneath the anxious thoughts to understand what's actually happening.
What triggered you? What did your mind make it mean? What are you afraid might happen?
2- Interrupt
We practice recognizing the pattern while it's happening and creating space between what you feel and what you do next.
3- Respond
We work toward making choices that reflect your values, needs, and goals rather than automatically following anxiety.
The goal isn't to become a completely different person.
It's to have more choice in how you respond.
An Attachment-Informed Approach to Anxiety
Anxiety doesn't always come out of nowhere.
Sometimes the way we respond to uncertainty, rejection, conflict, closeness, or disconnection makes more sense when we understand what we've learned to expect from relationships.
Attachment theory gives us a framework for understanding those patterns.
Maybe you learned to:
work hard to keep people happy
monitor other people's emotions
seek reassurance when someone feels distant
avoid conflict or vulnerability
pull away when closeness feels overwhelming
second-guess yourself when you don't know where you stand
These patterns may have made sense at one point. But they don't have to run your life now.
Services Offered
Therapy Services
For when the pattern is affecting your mental health.
Therapy is for when anxiety, depression, emotional distress, or longstanding patterns are making it harder to feel like yourself or live the way you want to live.
Together, we can explore what's underneath the pattern, how it developed, what keeps it going, and how to create healthier ways of responding.
Focus areas may include:
Understanding attachment patterns and the ways they influence how you think, feel, behave, and relate
Reducing anxiety, overthinking, and emotional overwhelm
Understanding and changing patterns of avoidance, self-sabotage, or procrastination
Strengthening boundaries, communication, self-esteem, and self-trust
Improving emotional regulation and coping with stress and uncertainty
Reducing people-pleasing and difficulty prioritizing your own needs
Navigating relationship patterns, conflict, rejection, and connection
Building healthier patterns around work, career, decision-making, and personal goals
Exploring how past experiences may continue to influence present-day thoughts, behaviors, and choices
What to Expect
Virtual sessions
Self-pay services
Collaborative, supportive approach
Focus on insight, emotional regulation, and lasting change
Space to explore both current challenges and the deeper patterns underneath them